Any relationship is a risk, and we would all like to understand at the very beginning how strong and happy it will be. But it’s impossible to predict this in the early stages. Still, there are many signs that show that the relationship of a couple is harmonious and will last a long time. Gleb Tsipursky, Ph.D., is a cofounder of a noncommercial organization dealing with the propaganda of rational thinking and a wise approach to making decisions, and he outlined them.
We decided to share these signs to help you understand how long-lasting your relationships will be and if it is worth fighting for them in critical situations. At the end of the article, there is a bonus waiting for you. It will reveal an unusual feature of almost all couples.
10. Behavior in stressful situations
It will help both of you to avoid rash actions and overly slow reactions. For example, if you are impulsive and “explosive” in stressful situations, a calm and balanced partner will help you make the right decisions instead of jumping to instant and incorrect conclusions while being overtaken by emotions.
9. Ways of thinking
Never make decisions for both of you, and don’t pretend that you can easily read your partner’s mind. It’s wrong! Asking questions and getting answers is the key to a healthy and harmonious relationship.
For example, if you want to hug someone, tell him about it instead of waiting for him to guess what you want. But keep in mind that you are only responsible for voicing your request or wish. Your partner can act as per his will, taking into account his needs and desires.
7. Personal space
You should encourage each other to develop hobbies, and find points of contact in them as well. Spare 1-2 days a week when you can do something unusual and interesting together. Scientists came to the conclusion that the happy memories you create with your partner help to keep a relationship strong.
6. Life plans
If you are planning to keep building your career until you are 40 but your partner dreams of having 3 children as soon as possible, then obviously you will have many debates in your family life. That’s why it’s important to discuss your life priorities as soon as possible.
5. Relationships with friends
This type of behavior is an indicator of matureness and caring about a beloved person.
4. Relationships with relatives
If you constantly quarrel with the parents of your wife or husband, it will become a reason for conflicts between you and your partner as well.
3. Healthy conflicts
Instead, try to understand the strategies that help resolve conflicts, and discuss them with your partner.
2. Celebrating successes
In harmonious and happy couples, partners feel happy for the successes of each other and inspire each other to achieve new goals.
Bonus: the type of relationship that is set for success
- Type 1: “perfect unity”
- Type 2: “love-travel”
In the first case, partners see each other as “ideal second halves.” They may think they were made for each other. In the second case, the lovers don’t outline their similarities and differences but the events they’ve lived through together, hand in hand.
And scientists believe that couples of the second type have a much higher chance of building a harmonious and long-lasting relationship because they are ready for the difficulties waiting for them and do not expect their partner to be ideal.
These 10 signs are markers that show your relationship is going to be harmonious and strong. But you should always keep in mind that your happiness depends on you too!
Tell us which rules and conditions, in your opinion, should be followed to have stable and long-lasting relationships.